How to confront people:
5 VIP Steps
- Consider timing, location and privacy
- Be specific with facts
- State your feelings
- Express your needs
- Ask for their response
If you stick to facts about the situation, and not your opinions, any anger towards you will subside.
For example:
Opinion: "You talk too much."
Fact: "In one hour of talking, I talked just 3 minutes."
"I feel THAT is unfair.
I would like to talk more next time."
Some common ailments,
diseases of the mouth and tongue:
complaining
nagging
non-stop talking
not ever talking
monologues
not checking in with the people present
rambling
dumping toxic emotions
off topic
yelling
coldhearted
lying
gossip
slander
unable to accept silence during conversation
Time is valuable, like money.
Stop people from
stealing
your opportunity to talk.
Visualize a healthy conversation
to be like a beach ball bouncing
from person
to person.
Pass the ball to the quiet ones.
Let everyone join in the fun.
Ch 2 - Relationships
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updated 2022dec13